The question most frequently asked astrologers is something like this: “Are Gemini and Virgo a good match?” On any day several versions of this question are likely to be posted on the Internet astrology newsgroup. Responses, if they come at all, are likely to be cynical, for the question betrays naivety about conventionally practiced astrology.
If a kind soul does respond, he or she is likely to tell the querent that one has to consider more than the sun sign; one has to consider the positions of the moon and planets when the two people were born, the signs ascending, and so on. But, if the birth sun signs are considered by themselves, then signs of the same “element” are considered harmonious while signs “square” one another are considered challenging or even conflictual.
This answer, complex as it is, may be as simplistic as the question, for it implies that pronouncements about relationships are indeed possible, that a relationship may be blessed or cursed astrologically. One just has to know what to look for.
Most of us are curious about our relationships with one another. I believe sun signs can open doors to understanding. As described here, the signs indicate a broad and general predisposition, or outlook, a set of assumptions about how the world works, what one can expect of it, and what’s important. If we examine sign characteristics along these lines, we become less inclined to think in terms of good and bad matches and more inclined to explore a friend’s unique point of view. We’re invited to wonder at how our friend’s outlook might expand or enrich our own.
My own attitude about people in my life is not to make value judgments about the goodness of the relationship but to discover the particular kind of relationship the two of us might find most mutually beneficial. In other words, it’s not a question of if we relate, but how. With such an intention, we can use astrology to bless and curse not at all.
Of course, interpretations of sun signs should never eclipse direct impressions. Our own sensory input always has pre-eminence. Our own experience should modify and refine our impressions of the signs. Sign interpretations, perhaps, suggest lenses we might look through to enhance our experience. We find that some of the lenses, as interpreted by others, work and some don’t.